When does a boy or a girl exit the mother’s custody (wilāyat al-ḥaḍānah) in Islamic law, and if Islamic law does not address this point, when would it be a matter of wisdom? What is the clarification regarding the confusion between honoring one’s mother and exiting custody at the appropriate time, and that there is no contradiction between honoring and exiting?

If women alone manage family affairs and accept or reject suitors, this indicates a shortcoming on the part of men in fulfilling the 'qawamah' (guardianship/maintainership) that Islamic law has assigned to them. The guardianship of حضانة (custody) pertains to the child's well-being in terms of food, clothing, and the like, and scholars differ on the age at which it ends. If a child is in the mother's custody, the father's authority in disciplining and educating the child does not fall away.