Should a wife, who fully supports her family and whose husband refuses debts, take a large loan to help her brother, knowing that her mother emotionally blackmails her into asking for more money, and that she believes her children and home are more deserving of this money?

You are not obligated to obey your mother in borrowing money to pay off your brother’s debt, and your refusal to do so is not a failure on your part to fulfill her rights. Her anger towards you for this reason will not harm you.

However, you must be dutiful and kind to her, strive to appease her, and alleviate her anger through gentle treatment, apologies, soft words, and the use of allusive language.