What is my fault and what is my right, and am I truly disobedient to my mother who is stubborn with me and describes me as disobedient, knowing that I was dutiful to her before my marriage, and is there a conclusive answer regarding the stubbornness of parents with their children?

It is recommended to be patient with your mother and overlook her mistakes, as her rights are great. What your mother does, such as spying and defaming, is a great error. Your moving out of your parents' house and living independently in your own apartment is your right and your wife's, and it is not an act of disobedience. Giving your parents from your salary is a virtuous deed, but providing for your wife and children takes precedence. Giving to them is not obligatory unless they are in need. Obedience to parents is obligatory in what is good, as long as it does not cause harm to the child. It is not obligatory to respond to their commands if they are out of obstinacy with no benefit. As long as you fulfill your parents' rights completely, your mother's accusation of disobedience will not harm you. You should supplicate for her frequently. The parents' wrongdoing does not negate their right to dutifulness.