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What should a 29-year-old man do, who has a prestigious job, a good salary, an attractive appearance, and a good reputation, but is suffering from a delay in marriage because his parents refuse to seriously look for a suitable wife for him, which has led him to search for himself through various unsuccessful methods, and consequently to fall into some sins, and to feel despair and frustration?

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First, you must abandon bad company, for it causes harm to one's religion and worldly life, in accordance with His, the Almighty's, saying: "And the Day the wrongdoer will bite on his hands he will say, 'Oh, I wish I had taken with the Messenger a way. Oh, woe to me! Would that I had not taken such a one as a friend. He led me astray from the remembrance after it had come to me.' And ever is Satan, to man, a deserter." (Al-Furqan/ 27-29). Second, your presence in places of disobedience makes you a partner in sin. Your claim that you do not watch or participate does not exempt you, for Allah has commanded the avoidance of such places. He, the Almighty, said: "And He has already revealed to you in the Book that when you hear the verses of Allah being denied and ridiculed, do not sit with them until they engage in another conversation. Indeed, in that case, you would be like them. Indeed, Allah will gather the hypocrites and disbelievers in Hell all together." (An-Nisa/ 140). Third, masturbation is forbidden and harmful to the soul and body. Fourth, among the helpful advice: patience in obedience, striving for marriage to protect oneself, honoring one's parents, refraining from staying up late, lowering one's gaze, persistently engaging in remembrance (dhikr) and supplication (du'a), and seeking a religious spouse when marrying.

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