Is it permissible for me to compel my wife to chat with me and for me to chat with her online, and to see her via video, and is this my right?

A wife's obedience to her husband in what is good and permissible is obligatory. This includes her answering his calls for reassurance and her appearing to him via the internet if there is no fear of espionage. If she fears, then she must answer while wearing her hijab and showing what is permissible to show in front of people. The relationship must be built on persuasion and mutual understanding, as her refusal might be due to modesty and concern for her honor.