Is it permissible to inform the parents that the acquaintance between the young man and the young woman occurred through a group on "Facebook" to avoid lying? And will Allah forgive them for their conversation before the engagement? What are the limits of permissible speech between them before the engagement? And is it better for the suitor to propose for engagement while he is still unemployed, or should he wait until he finds a job?
A woman's conversation with foreign men is not permissible unless there is a need, especially for young men and women. Informing the family that the young man is known due to his inquiry about a work-related matter, while the reality is otherwise, is a forbidden lie that requires repentance. Conversation between engaged couples is not permissible unless there is a need, and there appears to be no need to inform him about enrolling in a course, as that could be an entry point for Satan. Clarifying whether a job is permissible or forbidden is done by asking the people of knowledge, and religious violations may affect the blessings of marriage. There is no harm in a poor young man proposing to you if he has the resolve to work and you are content with little, for facilitating marriage and reducing its burdens are among the reasons for its blessings.
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