Is it wrong to ask a wife who was not a virgin and who communicated with young men after marriage to waive her deferred dower (mu’akhar), and would divorcing her after she waives it be a sin, and is it obligatory to spend on her if she remains in her family's home and does not waive the deferred dower, and is it obligatory to pay the deferred dower estimated at 10,000 dollars upon divorcing her?

First: It warns against women communicating with men online, due to its negative impact on marital life.

Second: The hymen can be removed for many reasons, and the wife should not be accused based on that.

Third: It is permissible to request the wife to waive the deferred dowry (mu'akhar), whether for the purpose of divorce or to keep her. It is also permissible for a man to pressure his wife to redeem herself from him if she commits a clear act of immorality. Major immorality includes (adultery), immodesty, and bad manners, as some scholars view. If there is no desire for divorce, there is no harm in requesting the waiver of the deferred dowry as a form of discipline and threat. Reconciliation is better than separation. It is not permissible to force the wife to waive the deferred dowry.

Fourth: If the wife does not respond to the advice to stop talking to men, she is considered disobedient (nashiz) and does not deserve maintenance (nafaqah). It is not permissible to keep the wife at her family's home to force her to waive the deferred dowry unless the husband intends to divorce her afterward. The dowry (mahr) is a right of the wife, but she may waive it willingly, or the husband may pressure her to seek divorce (ʿaḍl) if she commits an act that warrants such pressure.

It is advised that the intention behind this is to reform and straighten the wife. She can be prevented from accessing the internet and social media until her rectitude becomes clear.