How can one reconcile the parents’ desire to control their son’s financial resources and actions with the wife’s desire to build a financially independent future, given the ongoing disputes between the parents and the wife, and what is the way to define goals and begin achieving them?

The husband must balance the rights of his wife and his parents. He has the right to be dutiful and maintain ties of kinship and respectful treatment towards them, and she has the right to be treated kindly and provided with independent housing. A father's request for his son's money when he (the father) is wealthy, or his request to send money to the wife through him, is an unfair request, and the son is not considered disobedient if he gently refuses. Moreover, children have rights that are no less important than the rights of parents. If the father is in need of money, he must be given what suffices him. If he is wealthy and yearns for some of his son's money, he should not be prevented from it. However, demanding all the money is not permissible.