How can the widening gap between spouses be mended, and dialogue, love, and respect be rebuilt, especially in light of family interference, while preserving the husband's role as an active partner in family life, away from coldness and estrangement?

The silence a husband practices might be due to something he is concealing, and the wife should calmly converse with him to find out what it is.

She also needs to change his perception of her as being overbearing and hateful towards his family, and this must be done through actions, not words. The first step is to re-establish the broken relationship with his family and to endure any harm they might cause. She should be for him the loving, loyal woman who delights him when he looks at her and obeys him when he commands.