What should a wife do with her husband who has intercourse with her only a little, and asks her to masturbate with her hand in front of him, and prefers playing in the anus instead of the natural place?
The wife must openly express her need for marital relations to her husband. There is no harm in educating him, and open communication resolves such matters. The husband must respond to his wife's need for chastity, as it is an obligation upon him to the best of his ability. Marital intimacy is obligatory, and sexual intercourse with the wife is one of her most emphasized rights.
It is advisable to be patient to preserve the family. If the husband does not ensure his wife's chastity, she has the right to seek divorce due to harm. It is not permissible for the wife to resort to masturbation because it is forbidden, and the husband's shortcomings do not justify it. Hastening to divorce is not recommended, as married life with some harm is better than celibacy.
It is permissible for the husband to enjoy the outer part of his wife's anus and the area between her buttocks without penetration, but caution must be exercised not to go too far in this, lest he fall into what is forbidden.
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