Must one continue an engagement with a person whose treatment is characterized by severity and verbal abuse, and who imposes strict restrictions regarding interaction with family and their visits?

The problem is a fateful decision that you must make, but it can be analyzed to help you. A successful marriage depends on giving, compromising, and overlooking trifles. You are not convinced by the young man mentioned, and you are afraid of his rigidity, verbal abuse, and threats, even though he is well-mannered, polite, and ambitious. Do not rush to complete the marriage; rather, evaluate the relationship objectively, weigh the pros and cons, and assess your ability to endure his harshness. It is unlikely that his behavior will change for the better after marriage; if he is ill-tempered now, it will be difficult for him to become calm and patient. Look at your tolerance for his negative traits; if you are able to bear them, then proceed, otherwise, turning back is better for you. We advise you to perform Istikhara prayer and supplicate to Allah Almighty to choose what is best for you.