How are gifts given to the family of the deceased distributed?

The question is unclear, but if what is meant is that people give gifts to the family of the deceased after his death, then the gift is distributed according to the giver's wishes. If the giver cannot be asked, then the prevailing custom for distributing such gifts should be followed, because "designation by custom is like designation by designation by text." So, if the custom is to allocate them to the minor heirs of the deceased and his wife, then they are theirs.