Is it permissible for a fiancé to feel jealous of his fiancée and her family and to lose trust in them due to their repeated harm through disobedience, and what is the ruling on one who is asked to relinquish his jealousy by allowing his mother and his fiancée’s mother to converse with strangers on social media, and is this jealousy considered extremism? Is it permissible for a fiancé to converse with his fiancée via Facebook to agree upon matters concerning their marriage, and what is the ruling on one who speaks to women, citing the incident of the fiancé with his fiancée as a pretext? What is the ruling on one who insults the fiancé and accuses him of hypocrisy for speaking with his fiancée and prevents him from offering advice? And what is the ruling on one who asks the fiancé to only pay attention to his fiancée and not prevent her from conversing with her mother or sister, and is a fiancé who feels jealous of his fiancée’s family considered an extremist and backward?
Jealousy is praiseworthy and is one of the characteristics of believers. A believer is jealous concerning the sacred limits of Allah. The Sharia prohibits conversation between unmarriageable men and women without need, due to the potential for fitna (temptation/strife) that it may lead to. A fiancée is considered unmarriageable to her fiancé, and it is not permissible to speak with her except out of necessity and for the sake of the marriage. One who denounces unlawful conversation is not an extremist. The one advised should accept the advice, even if the advisor himself is deficient. It is not permissible to accuse a Muslim of hypocrisy.
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