How can one get rid of feelings of frustration, despair, self-hatred, and fear of death, when comparing the sacrifices of martyrs and jihad in the way of Allah with one's own shortcomings, in an effort to be a righteous Muslim and enter Paradise?

A woman is not originally tasked with fighting, as the conditions for the obligation of jihad include masculinity, and jihad is waived for her due to her femininity. However, jihad may become obligatory for her if the enemy suddenly attacks the people and defense is not possible without their participation. A woman should not wish for what Allah has made obligatory upon men, in accordance with His saying, "And do not covet that by which Allah has made some of you excel others." For a woman, there are many doors to great good and reward, including preparing mujahideen and scholars by raising her children, and her intention in this grants her a great reward. The fields of a woman's jihad and her defense of Islam are numerous and are not limited to the battlefield.