Is it permissible, in Islamic law, to curse one's wife with obscene language such as "O daughter of so-and-so" with her consent, only during sexual intercourse, to achieve mutual arousal?

It is not permissible for a husband to insult his wife with words that demean her and her parents, whether she accepts it or not. This is a grave sin and a deviation from sound human nature. Islamic law has forbidden indecency and vulgarity.