Is a person considered disobedient to their parents if they die while displeased with him, despite his repentance from the sin that caused their displeasure? And what is the ruling on their action of exposing his private matters to the family and drawing everyone's attention to him?

You should beware of what leads to immorality, and psychological pressure does not justify it. Hearts find peace in the remembrance of Allah. If you find annoyance from your family, be patient and repel evil with good. supplicate often for them that their situation may improve, and be dutiful to your mother. Permission to go out for work is in the husband’s hand, with adherence to Sharia guidelines. In case of mistreatment from family, especially parents, you should deal with them with wisdom and forbearance, and be dutiful to them.