Is it an obligation upon an unmarried daughter who is still studying and supported by her father to serve and obey him in matters that please Allah? What is her position if the wife and the father disagree about her legitimate interest? Is the phrase "The Lord's wrath comes from the father's wrath" sound? Is falling short in obeying and serving her father or neglecting him considered an act of disobedience to parents?
The rights of parents are great, and honoring the mother takes precedence over honoring the father. The children's service to their parents may become obligatory when there is a need, and their refusal to do so is an act of disobedience (uqooq). If the parents disagree, the children should strive to reconcile them. Obedience to parents is obligatory in matters that are good (maroof) and that benefit them without harming the child. Parents are not permitted to burden their children with what harms them, nor to incite them to disobey one of them. The mother should guide her two daughters with wisdom, not with coercion. The father is advised to counsel his wife and to undertake the guidance of his two daughters with gentleness.
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