What is the ruling of the Sharia on the dispute that arises between the fiancé and the fiancée regarding the expenses of the engagement and the gold "shabka" after the dissolution of the engagement, with both parties differing on the value of the recoverable items, knowing that the fiancé wants to reclaim the gold and gifts, and the bride's family requests deducting the expenses of the engagement ceremony from the value of the "shabka"?

If custom considers the shabakah (engagement gift, usually jewelry) part of the mahr (dowry), then the suitor has the right to reclaim it in specie if it still exists, or its value if it has been destroyed. The fiancée has no right to it unless the suitor waives his right. As for other gifts, the preponderant opinion is that the suitor is permitted to reclaim them. The expenses of the engagement party are not binding on the suitor. Reconciliation and mutual agreement between the two parties are preferred, and in case of dispute, the judiciary will decide, while emphasizing the virtue of benevolence and forgiveness.