How should a wife deal with her husband's mother who is domineering, deceitful, greedy, and selfish, and complains about the wife and her son to others? The wife fears her out of concern for falling into hypocrisy, while wishing to be of good character, maintain kinship ties, and help her husband honor his parents.

We advise the questioner to be patient with the harm inflicted by her husband's mother (her aunt). Her husband should shield her from his mother's harm, and he should gently advise his mother and seek help from someone who has influence over her. The questioner has the right to a separate dwelling if the husband's mother lives with them. The husband's mother should return to her husband's house if she is living elsewhere and there is no legitimate impediment.