Is the wife divorced and is the husband obligated to tear up the paper containing the divorce wording if she did what the divorce was conditioned upon but forgot, given that the husband had told her: "If you do such and such again, you will be divorced"?

The statement "If you do such and such, you will be divorced" carries two possibilities:

1. A promise of divorce. This does not obligate you to anything, even if the wife performs the action. 2. A suspension of divorce contingent on the action. The occurrence of divorce in this case is a matter of scholarly disagreement. The majority of scholars rule that divorce occurs even if she performs the action forgetfully, while some do not rule that it occurs if she performs it forgetfully, and this latter view is the more preponderant one.

Therefore, in your case, the divorce has not occurred, and your wife remains under your marital bond. You are not obligated to tear up the paper.