How should one deal with a sister who has been discovered engaging in obscene conversations with another girl, and is it permissible to impersonate the other girl in the conversation to sever their relationship?
Your sister's forbidden relationship stems from educational, social, and psychological factors, and a weakening of religious deterrents. To help her rectify her situation, you should:
1. Seek Allah's help through supplication and fervent prayer for her guidance.
2. Treat her with gentleness and love, avoiding any condescending attitude.
3. Draw closer to her and discuss life matters, subtly offering indirect advice about the dangers and consequences of forbidden relationships, while sharing real-life or religious stories.
4. Share in her concerns to become a safe alternative for friendship.
5. Encourage her to engage in hobbies or sports to channel her energies.
6. Keep the matter confidential initially, and gradually inform your parents if things do not improve.
7. Remind her of Allah's constant watchfulness, His knowledge of hidden things, and the Day of Judgment.
8. Remind her of Allah's beautiful names and attributes that inspire hope and optimism, and that Allah accepts His servant's repentance.
9. Pray for her to find a righteous husband who will make her independent of forbidden things.
10. Threaten to inform the guardian as a last resort if she does not respond to the advice.
Summarized from the full answer at Ftawy · reviewed Sep 2, 2026
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