Is the mother of a child who died in a car accident considered his killer for not holding his hands, and is a bloodwit (diyah) obligatory upon her, and will she be punished on the Day of Judgment because of her severe beating of him, and did Allah Almighty take him from her because of her cruelty, and does he hear her when she visits him in the grave?

Firstly: The patient and hopeful individual who loses a child is greatly rewarded. This is based on the Prophet's (peace be upon him) saying that Allah builds a house in Paradise called "Bayt Al-Hamd" (the House of Praise) for whoever praises Him and says "Innā lillāhi wa innā ilayhi rājiʿūn" (To Allah we belong and to Him is our return) upon the death of their child.

Secondly: One must seek forgiveness for harshness and hitting a four-year-old child for the purpose of teaching them. Islamic law does not command hitting children for prayer until after the age of ten. Gentleness in upbringing produces successful and self-confident children, unlike violence and harshness.

Thirdly: Regarding the child's death, responsibility may lie with the driver, the mother, or both. If the competent authorities determine that the fault lies with the driver, then the mother bears no responsibility. If the fault lies with the mother due to her negligence in a dangerous place, then she bears the consequences of involuntary manslaughter.

Fourthly: Whoever commits involuntary manslaughter is obligated to offer expiation, which is fasting for two consecutive months if they cannot find a slave to free. The blood money is obligatory upon the killer's 'Aqilah (male relatives on the paternal side) to the child's heirs, and the heirs' pardon waives it.

Fifthly: If more than one person participates in involuntary manslaughter, each one of them must offer a full expiation, and the blood money is distributed among them according to each one's share of the fault.

Sixthly: To learn about the ruling on visiting graves and whether the deceased hears those who visit them, one can refer to previous fatwas on the website.