How can I honor my father without hurting my mother or compromising my dignity?

The father's right is great and is not forfeited by his injustice. Therefore, you must honor him by visiting him, checking on his well-being, and fulfilling his needs. This includes every possible act of kindness. Your honoring him does not harm your mother; in fact, she encourages you to do so. If you fear hurting her feelings with some forms of honoring him, you can conceal it from her. Your honoring, humility, and patience with him will increase your dignity and honor.