Is it forbidden to use the word "disgrace" for actions that do not amount to real disgrace, such as not being good at writing?

The word "disgrace" (عَار) is used for anything that results in a defect or a cause for blame. The ruling on its utterance varies according to the situation and the person. What might be considered a disgrace for a scholar might not be so for an ordinary person. The criterion mentioned regarding the permissibility of uttering this word is not precise. It may be used to emphasize disapproval or to urge the opposite, as Al-Hasan (definition) al-Basri said: "Indeed, the superiority of deeds over words is a virtue, while the superiority of words over deeds is a disgrace." And whoever describes something that is not a disgrace as a disgrace has erred.