Is what a wife does with her husband—such as touching and placing a hand on his shoulder or leg—considered forbidden without her mother's knowledge, and does priority lie in fulfilling a promise to the mother or in the wife's happiness with her husband?

If a valid marriage contract has been concluded, the spouses are permitted to enjoy each other, even if the customary wedding celebration has not yet taken place. There is no blame upon the wife for allowing her husband to enjoy her, and she does not sin by breaking her promise to her mother in this regard. However, it is more appropriate for the wife to be patient and fulfill her promise to her mother, as long as no harm results to her from doing so. It is advisable to hasten the consummation of the marriage as much as possible.