Did the divorce between the spouses take place based on the mentioned situations and utterances, especially with the presence of doubt and uncertainty in the intention of divorce, and what is the legitimate ruling in this case that caused the husband great anxiety and doubts about the validity of his marital life and acts of worship?

None of what was mentioned in the question causes divorce, whether it occurred before or after consummation. One must not pay attention to these doubts and whisperings (waswas), and beware of being lenient with them or giving in to the whisperings of Satan that call for divorcing the wife. The way for one afflicted with waswas is not to bring about what Satan desires, but rather to seek refuge in Allah from him, hold onto his wife, treat her with kindness, seek Allah's help, and not despair.