Is it permissible for a wife to refuse anal sex if her husband insists on it, while she feels neglected and humiliated by him?
What a husband does by looking at foreign women is forbidden, according to the Almighty’s saying: (Tell the believing men to lower their gaze). And his neglecting, stinginess toward, and belittling his wife contradicts the Almighty’s saying: (And live with them in kindness), and (And do not harm them), and (And due to them [wives] is similar to what is due from them [husbands] in a reasonable manner), and (Let a man of wealth spend from his wealth).
As for the wife, she should remind her husband of Allah in a good manner, according to the Almighty’s saying: (And tell My servants to say that which is best).
As for anal intercourse in the vagina, it is permissible, according to the Almighty’s saying: (Your wives are a place of cultivation for you, so come to your place of cultivation however you wish). And she must show affection to him and find out the reason for his turning away from her.
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