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What should I do about my fiancée who initiates kissing and hugging when I visit her, and is this a punishment from Allah because of my practice of masturbation?

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It is permissible for a woman to assist her fiancé if he is well-off. However, the relationship between a fiancé and his fiancée before the marriage contract is like the relationship between a man and an unrelated woman. Seclusion, forbidden gazes, touching, and kissing are all forbidden, as they are reprehensible acts that fall under the saying of Allah Almighty: "And do not approach unlawful sexual intercourse. Indeed, it is ever an indecency and an evil way." The fiancé must offer sincere repentance, cease visits that lead to reprehensible acts, and maintain chastity and patience. He must also advise his fiancée to repent, for a woman's righteousness and modesty are conditions for a successful married life. If the fiancée repents, it is advisable to hasten the marriage contract. If she does not repent, the engagement should be broken off, and the jewelry and dress returned, for Allah is sufficient to enrich whoever seeks chastity. Sincere repentance from sin is obligatory and immediate, and the repentant person must be wary of the causes of disobedience.

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