A man married and had four children and lived for twenty years with his wife, who had many shortcomings. Then he met a girl he had loved in his youth. She was on her third marriage and awaiting divorce from her unfaithful husband. He agreed with her to marry her after her divorce, but his first wife refuses and threatens him with the children. He asks if he has wronged his first wife, and whether his relationship with the second girl before her divorce is considered "takheeb" (incitement to divorce), knowing that her decision to divorce was made before he met her.
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All praise is due to Allah. You must repent from the sinful relationship with the married woman, and it is not necessary to inform her husband. It is not permissible to discuss marriage with her because she is married, and Islamic law calls for reconciliation between spouses during disagreements. The relationship with her must be severed, but if she is divorced and her waiting period () ends, then it is permissible to marry her. There is no injustice to the first wife in polygyny, provided that justice is maintained between them.
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