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What should the questioner do regarding her husband's sexual dissatisfaction, her suffering from depression, her recourse to a forbidden relationship that ended and which she later regretted, and her husband's refusal to divorce her? Should she seek a divorce, taking into account the fate of her daughters, or should she endure for their sake at the expense of her psychological and physical comfort?

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It is the wife's right that her husband keeps her chaste, and if she is harmed by her husband's weakness in intercourse, she has the right to seek divorce or khulʿ. However, this does not justify her establishing a relationship with another man, as that is a betrayal of trust. She must repent from this relationship by abandoning it, feeling remorse, and resolving not to return to it.

The husband is advised to consult a specialized doctor to treat his weakness. If he refuses treatment or if it is ineffective, and the wife cannot endure, she has the right to seek divorce or khulʿ. If the husband refuses, she may refer her case to a judge. Fear for the two daughters does not prevent this, as preserving one's religion is paramount, and "whoever fears Allah—He will make for him a way out and will provide for him from where he does not expect."

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