What is the difference between estrangement (hajr) and quarreling (mushāḥanah)? Is estrangement considered quarreling? Is the situation where two people distance themselves due to hurt feelings and disregarded sorrow considered estrangement or quarreling? Is it considered quarreling between two parties if it is from one party, with the other party being estranged without any quarreling in their heart?
Abandoning, forsaking, and shunning a Muslim are forbidden, as are contention and enmity, unless there is a legitimate Shar'i justification for it, such as if the person is an innovator (mubtadi'), or if one fears harm from them in religious or worldly matters. Abandonment (hajr) is permissible if the harm cannot be removed except by it, for often a beautiful separation is better than harmful association.
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