What should my mother do regarding the communication breakdown with her parents that began when she and my aunts demanded that my uncle leave my grandfather's house, due to the harm he was causing them and their mother, especially since my grandmother has retracted her stance and abandoned her daughters? What is the ruling on her demanding that her uncle leave the house, and on her grandmother continuing to serve her married children and grandchildren? And how should I deal with my grandparents under these circumstances?

The Shari'a encourages harmony and affection among Muslims, especially among kin. Therefore, striving for reconciliation among family members is one of the best acts of devotion. The uncle's harming of his mother is an act of disobedience (uqooq) that necessitates gentle and kind advice. If he does not desist, the grandfather must repel his harm from her, even if it means expelling him from the house, provided the grandfather owns the house and the uncle is an adult of sound mind. The mother's and aunts' defense of the grandmother is a good thing, but it does not justify their severing ties with any of the grandparents if the grandfather does not respond. Rather, they should continue to advise and reform. The grandmother is not obligated to serve her children and their wives; her children should be a help to her, not a burden. It is permissible for the mother and aunts to suggest to the grandfather that he expel the uncle from the house or take whatever measures repel his harm from his mother.