Should I definitively distance myself from the girl and not propose to her, despite the love and trust? Does the deceased know what happens to his children after his death? Should I propose to the girl's mother despite her previous objection? What is the appropriate waiting period after the death of the girl's father? Does her mother's 'iddah period have any bearing on that? Is not proposing to the girl considered a breach of promise, or should I propose and explain the current circumstances to her mother?

Allah may inform the deceased about the state of their family after their death, but it is not true that as soon as a person dies, they become aware of their family's secrets and hidden matters. We advise you to wait until people's emotions settle, then propose to the girl. If she accepts, then that is well and good. If not, know that the matter is with Allah. It is not forbidden for you not to propose to her, and this is not a breach of promise if she is the one who desires it. The mother's waiting period has no bearing on proposing to the girl, but it is not customary or appropriate to propose while hearts are still grieving over the father's death.