Is it permissible for the guardian to reject a suitor who is committed to his religion and character due to the girl's studies or for any other reason? Is it permissible for the girl to object to her guardian's rejection if she sees nothing in herself that contradicts religion and Islamic law? Should the girl hasten to inform her family of the marriage proposal, or should she wait for the opportune moment? Is the suitor's insistence on the girl to inform her family and get engaged considered appropriate conduct? Is studying considered an impediment to marriage?
It is not permissible to establish any relationship with a foreign woman outside the framework of marriage. You were right to inform your family and to desire to hasten the engagement, as long as this woman is of good character and religious commitment. The Prophet, peace and blessings be upon him, said: "Nothing like marriage is seen for two who love each other." You were also right in urging this girl to inform her family so that the engagement can take place, as she should cut off her relationship with you until the engagement and marriage contract are concluded.
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