Is the last divorce pronouncement you uttered to your wife—after she left without your permission, and you said to her mother, "Your daughter is divorced"—considered an irrevocable divorce (baynunah kubra), bearing in mind that you had previously divorced her once and followed it with the phrase, "If you leave without my permission, then you are divorced," for the purpose of intimidation?

We thank you for your admiration of our site, and we ask Allah to grant us and you success. If the situation is as you described, then the first and third divorces have occurred. As for the second divorce that you included in the message with the words "you are divorce," it is an

allusion (kinayah) by which divorce does not occur unless accompanied by intention. If you intended to threaten, then no divorce occurred. A wife leaving without permission is an act of defiance (nushooz), and divorce is not the first solution; rather, there are legitimate steps to discipline a defiant wife. The divorce pronounced by an angry person is effective unless he has lost consciousness, and one should be wary of anger.