Is a girl's refusal to marry men of religion and good character considered unlawful (haram), on the grounds that they do not share her transformative and reformative goal in society?

The questioner is advised to seek Allah's help and to foster agreement between the spouses. There is no harm in a woman's ambition for her husband to be close to her in understanding, but one must beware of extremism. If she does not find someone possessing all the desired qualities, she should accept someone who comes close. Marriage itself contributes to the advancement of the Ummah by producing righteous offspring. A man of religion and good character is more likely to be a helper for the woman in goodness and for the benefit of the Ummah. The command in the Hadith to marry a man of religion and good character indicates a strong recommendation, not an obligation.