Is it permissible for me to deal with my parents separately in their disputes, so that I inform one of them that the other is the offender, if telling the truth would lead to their anger with me?

The ruling on your intervention differs depending on the situation:

- If one of the parents is oppressive, you must advise them gently and kindly, as long as you do not fear a greater harm.

- If the dispute is ordinary, there is no harm in showing each of them that they are in the right, seeking their pleasure, while continuing to advise them regarding the wife's obedience to her husband and the husband's good companionship with the mother of his children. It is permissible to convey words that calm souls and remove grudges, even if they are untrue.