How can one deal with a stubborn, controlling husband who constantly compares and belittles, is ashamed of his wife's presence with him, suffers from premature ejaculation and erectile dysfunction, and spreads lies about her to her family?

We advise you to strive diligently in being a good wife to your husband, fulfilling his rights, and communicating with him. Remind him of marital relations conducted with kindness and counsel him to seek treatment for his weakness concerning intercourse. If he does not respond, there is no objection to the intervention of wise family members to advise him. If this does not help, then weigh the harm of remaining with him in this situation against the harm of separating from him through khul‘ or divorce, and choose the lesser of the two harms.