What is the ruling on what the questioner did when she went to perform Umrah while she was menstruating and did not enter into ihram from the miqat, then she performed tawaf and sa'i while still menstruating, after she shortened her hair, adorned herself, and her husband caressed her, and what must she do to expiate her sin?

Answer Summary:

There is no harm in cutting your hair, applying kohl, and engaging in playful intimacy, because you had not entered into the state of Ihram for Umrah before then.

Regarding the Tawaf, Sa'i, and Taqsir:

1. If you performed these without the intention of Umrah: These actions are null and void, nothing results from them, and you will not be credited with the reward of Umrah. You should have been frank with your father that you did not intend Umrah. 2. If you intended to enter into Ihram for Umrah before performing these actions: Your Umrah is valid according to those who do not stipulate ritual purity for Tawaf (such as the Hanafis, and Ahmad in one narration, and the chosen view of Ibn Taymiyyah). The Hanafis mandate a large sacrificial animal (badanah), while Ahmad mandates a sheep, and Ibn Taymiyyah mandates nothing. It is more prudent to appoint someone to slaughter a sheep on your behalf in Mecca and distribute it to the poor. Since you did not go to the "حل" (non-sacred area) to enter into Ihram (e.g., Al-Taneem), a compensatory sacrifice (dam) is required (a sheep to be distributed to the poor of the Haram).