What is the ruling on a suitor asking his fiancée to masturbate during conversations, and engaging in sexual practices without actual intercourse when they meet, given their awareness of the prohibition of anal sex?

If the suitor has concluded a valid contract, he is a husband and it is permissible for him to enjoy [his wife]. However, it is customary not to allow the husband to engage in sexual intercourse before the wedding, and this custom should be respected. The wife is not permitted to obey her husband if he requests illicit enjoyment, such as anal intercourse or masturbation.