What is the Shar'i (Islamic legal) opinion regarding the selection of a wife, especially when a young man's desire conflicts with his mother's desire in choosing a life partner?
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The husband has the right to choose his wife, but obedience to parents is obligatory if they forbid marrying a particular woman, unless not marrying her leads to falling into sin. The son is not obligated to marry someone he does not desire. Obedience to parents in what is good is obligatory, and the son should strive to please them and convince them kindly. It is better to stay away from a girl whom the mother does not approve of. A man must stop having a relationship with a non- woman and seek a wife through legitimate means, such as appointing female relatives [to act on his behalf].
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