Is it permissible for women to visit graves, especially for one who is in her 'iddah period, and what is the interpretation of the Hadith "Allah has cursed women who frequently visit graves"? And is it better to donate the deceased's money to purchase modest clothing for sisters, or to donate it to the mosque or to orphans, or to perform 'Umrah on behalf of the deceased with this small amount of money?

The preponderant view is that it is permissible for women to visit graves, unless they visit excessively or commit something forbidden; and the curse in the hadith (definition) is interpreted as referring to those who visit frequently. The mother should remain patient in her home until her iddah (definition) (waiting period) ends, and frequently supplicate and ask for mercy for the father. The father's estate is to be divided after paying off debts and executing any bequests. Your spending on your needy sisters is among the best acts of closeness to Allah, as it combines charity and maintaining kinship ties. This is especially emphasized if it pertains to modest clothing, and if you yourselves are in need of it, then spending it on yourselves is better than spending it on mosque projects.