Does the description "wasp" apply to a wife who is not good at cooking and is characterized by "selfishness, ingratitude, and talkativeness," and should the door of the house be changed because of her, as in the story of Ishmael, peace be upon him, especially with the hindrance of livelihood and work after marriage?

There is no connection between professional and financial problems and marrying a girl. This correlation is merely a suspicion and a guess, and it stems from the forbidden pessimism.

As for the three traits: "selfishness, constant reproach, and excessive talkativeness," these make one disinclined towards a woman. Some women possess characteristics and temperaments that bring ill fortune to their husbands. Some scholars have interpreted the ill fortune of a woman as: "her inability to bear children, her sharp tongue, and her exposure to suspicion." If a man's wife is such, then separation is preferable.

As for her not being good at cooking, this can be improved over time.

The advice is to try to reform your wife with kindness and to pray for an improvement in the situation.