Is a husband's pleasing his mother at the expense of wronging his wife and children and causing them psychological illnesses permissible, and what is your advice to a husband who sees his mother as an angel and does not accept a word against her, thinking that this is an act of righteousness? And is a person rewarded or sinful if he does not testify to the injustice of his parents, even though he witnessed it and his testimony was requested? And if he goes beyond that and fabricates accusations and slanders against their adversaries, what is his judgment in the sight of Allah?
Islamic law grants a wife rights over her husband, and he must ensure she receives her rights without favoring his mother. The wife should assist her husband with patience and advise him kindly. A man's love for his mother is natural, but he should not favor her at his wife's expense. If a husband is required to testify, he must do so, even if it is against his parents, as Allah the Almighty says: "O you who have believed, be persistently Qawwameen [firm upholders] in justice, witnesses for Allah, even if it be against yourselves or parents and relatives." And if one person attributes to another what they did not say, it is slander and falsehood, as Allah the Almighty says: "And those who harm believing men and believing women for [something] other than what they have earned have certainly borne slander and manifest sin." One of the most important objectives of Islamic law is the psychological tranquility of the spouses, and they must work to achieve it for the happiness of the family and the sound upbringing of children.
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