Is it permissible for a woman to pronounce ẓihār against her husband, and is her saying to him "my brother" or "my father" considered ẓihār?
According to the majority of scholars, ẓihār (a pronouncement of divorce likened to one's mother's back) cannot be issued by a woman. Therefore, if a woman says to her husband, "You are to me like the back of my father," this is not considered ẓihār. A wife merely addressing her husband as "my brother" or "my father" is not considered ẓihār, nor does it result in prohibition, because her intention is to express his esteemed status and care for her, even if she intended prohibition, for ẓihār is not issued by women to their husbands.
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