Is it permissible to supplicate with the words: "O Lord, guide my wife if there is good in her for me, and keep her away from me if there is evil in her for me"?
Among the etiquettes of supplication are certainty in the request, persistence in it, repetition, and conviction in its answer, based on the Prophet's (peace be upon him) saying: "When one of you supplicates, let him not say: 'O Allah, forgive me if You will,' but rather let him be firm in his request and magnify his desire, for Allah is not burdened by anything He gives." Therefore, the mentioned phrasing should be avoided. It is better for a Muslim to supplicate with certainty for his wife's guidance and righteousness, asking Allah for her good and the good of her inherent nature, and seeking refuge in Him from her evil and the evil of her inherent nature, as the Prophet (peace be upon him) guided: "When one of you takes a wife or a servant, let him take her by the forelock and say: 'O Allah, I ask You for her goodness and the goodness of her inherent nature, and I seek refuge in You from her evil and the evil of her inherent nature.'"
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