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Is it permissible for a father to prevent his daughter from marrying a young man of good character and religious commitment on the pretext that he is not a "qabili" (from a noble tribe), and what is the ruling on a father beating his daughter for refusing to comply with his opinion on this matter?

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The majority of jurists consider kafa'ah (suitability/equivalence) a condition for the validity of marriage. However, the preponderant opinion is that the only kafa'ah to be considered is in religious commitment. Therefore, a Muslim woman cannot be married to a disbeliever, nor a chaste woman to a dissolute man. This is supported by the words of Allah Almighty: ﴿O mankind, indeed We have created you from male and female and made you peoples and tribes that you may know one another. Indeed, the most noble of you in the sight of Allah is the most righteous of you.﴾ and the words of the Prophet, peace be upon him: "If there comes to you one whose religious commitment and character you approve, then marry him." The Prophet, peace be upon him, married Zaynab bint Jahsh al-Qurashiyah to Zayd ibn Harithah, his freed slave. This view is narrated from Omar and Ibn Mas'ud, and it is the choice of Sheikh al-Islam Ibn Taymiyyah and Ibn al-Qayyim. Therefore, if a suitor of good religious commitment and character proposes to a woman, he should not be rejected regardless of his lineage or tribe. The father should marry his daughter to this righteous suitor and not pay attention to the objections of some, because strictness in lineage is a bad custom that has caused societal problems such as spinsterhood and divorce.

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