How can one reconcile the desire to prepare for Ramadan with worship, and irritable bowel syndrome (IBS) which affects prayer and ablution, with the demands of a mother who wants help with housework and preparing breakfast, especially with guests in the house throughout the month of Ramadan?

We ask Allah to increase your obedience and closeness to Him and to your mother, and to remove illness from you. If your mother prevents you from working and gets angry if you help her in the kitchen, then leave the work there for her and do something else that eases her burden. Try to convince her that you are not pleased with her anger and her preventing you from helping her, and she will be content with your help, God willing.