How can a young man reconcile his desire to marry a woman of knowledge and religious commitment with his family's wish for him to marry outside the family to avoid disputes? What are the appropriate questions that can be asked of the prospective bride during the legitimate meeting? Should she be honestly informed about his inability to cover the marriage expenses and about past mistakes? And how can one overcome the constant fear of God's punishment and the feeling of anxiety despite seeking forgiveness?

It is recommended to choose a religious wife who will help in matters of this world and the Hereafter, as stated in the prophetic hadith: "So win the religious woman, and you will prosper." There is no conflict between your desire and your parents' desire to marry outside the family. Both can be achieved by searching for a righteous, religious wife from outside the circle of relatives. This will serve both interests and please your parents.

If it is possible to sit with the fiancée in the presence of her mahram without khalwah (seclusion), then it is permissible to discuss essential matters with her, without exaggerating in questions and relying on inquiring about her and her family before entering the house. Honesty must be maintained when stating one's financial and social status.

It is not permissible to confess past sins that Allah has concealed to the fiancée; rather, one must conceal their own sins.

The fear required by Islamic law is that which motivates one to do good and avoid sin. As for fear that leads to despair and apathy, it is from the whispers of Satan. Seek help from Allah, rely on Him, and strengthen your connection with your Lord.