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Should the wife, who swore to her husband that she had not touched another man but in reality she had, do anything about her husband's oath that she would be like his mother and sister if she touched another man?

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A husband's statement to his wife, "You are like my mother," could imply divorce, ẓihār, or her resemblance in honor. However, if the statement is in the form of an oath, the intention of honor is unlikely.

If the husband said to his wife, "You are like my mother and my sister if a man other than me touches you," and that occurred: if he intended divorce, it is a divorce; if he intended ẓihār, it is ẓihār; and if he intended an oath or had no specific intention, it is an oath.

Ibn Qudamah said: If he says, "You are to me like my mother," and he intended ẓihār, then it is ẓihār. If he intended honor or resemblance in a quality, it is not ẓihār. If he uttered it without specific intent, there is a difference of opinion.

It is obligatory for the wife to repent to Allah and inform her husband of the truth of the matter so that he may act according to his intention. If he intended divorce, it takes effect. If it was ẓihār, he must perform the expiation for ẓihār before conjugal relations.

The wife should show remorse and repentance to her husband to alleviate his anger. The husband should not hold his wife accountable after her repentance.

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